My mother has always commented how just before my birthday, for as long as I was old enough to wander off a bit, I would become very contemplative and find myself a quiet place to think. I really never noticed it until one year when I walked into our home, she asked where I’d been and I told her that I had been in the woods, climbing trees, just thinking. She said, “You’ve done that ever since you were little.”
I remember looking at her quizzically, thinking, “climbing trees?”
She saw the expression on my face...knowing my mind as most moms do, and answered my unasked question. “Just before your birthday, you have, for as long as you were aware of your birthday, found a quiet place to think.”
Side note:Lol! Have you ever seen where Pooh Bear says, “think, think, think.” Pooh climbs trees! Oh my goodness! I’ve just realized I’m Pooh!?!?LOL I’m ok with Pooh Bear...
I don’t think I do this as much for myself any more, and it’s been a while since I’ve climbed a tree, but I do find myself reminiscing now more for my children. As I’m writing this, our baby, our Tucker, is on the eve of his 22nd birthday. Oh my goodness, where has time gone? How did we get here so quickly! I remember being the mom of three little boys like it was yesterday!
I will take a moment and say as I’ve often said, to whoever will listen, “enjoy!” Enjoy this crazy, hectic, sleepless part of your life! Take time to drink a cup of coffee, tea, or wine - whatever’s your thing - breathe deeply, take it all in, treasure it in your heart, because before you will know it, it will be over and in the past. It goes by so fast!
Now don’t get me wrong, I love being the mom of three grown, precious, incredible men. Men who have grown to be mighty-men who love God, love their wives, and love their families. Men who are so their dad! Our oldest, Will, is such a precious father. Our family has grown, and now I get the privilege of having daughters and a granddaughter! Life is an amazing adventure for sure!
I remember holding Tucker when he was a baby, not wanting to put him down because I knew that unless God miraculously intervened, he would be our last. I remember him struggling early on in school, trying to find his way. I remember a precious 4th grade teacher seeing his potential for leadership and giving him opportunities to grow in that; making mistakes and learning from them, growing up faster, it seemed, trying to somehow catch up with his big brothers. I remember many 4th of July’s where it was just the three of us because his big brothers were away at some youth event or on a mission trip. I remember his 7th grade year as being such a sweet and golden year-Will was a senior and Kolby was a sophomore. We had football almost every night of the week that fall because they all played. So sweet! They were all in youth that year. They all wrestled-it was not only a first for Tuck, but for Will too-just to be with his brothers. I remember later in Jr. High...growing, changing, making mistakes-as we all do-but really starting to shine as a leader. I believe he was FCA president his sophomore through senior year. This carried on from HS and overflowed into college. He excelled in college and was a leader on campus. I’ll never forget his “burn the boats” speech showing up in my FB feed and being so proud. I’m always amazed and humbled at the places God has put all three of the boys, the gifts, the opportunities, the answered prayers.
Tucker is the more outspoken and outgoing of the three-I think birth order has something to do with this. He will not hesitate to tell you how he really feels about something. He loves his brothers dearly, and has been blessed with the most incredible circle of friends. He always says, “I’m making friends everywhere I go.” He has been blessed with such a sweet love of his life-Kassity.
The adventure continues...he could work anywhere, but he chooses to work with us. I get the privilege to share an office with him...who knew! He is taking over the biggest part of what I’ve done at Y&S for the majority of his life, and now I get to concentrate on this new adventure, new chapter aka Ya Ya’s. He helps me with social media and loads of tech stuff for this new little venture. Again, I am so humbled and thankful that I get the opportunity to not only work with my husband, but work with all three of our sons. God is amazing!
As I’ve stated in other posts, I take names very seriously. Someone who had more influence on my life than she will ever know created beautiful documents with the boys names, what they mean, and scriptures that go along with the meaning. In her research she found that Tucker, in old French, means a drum beater to set the cadence-be an example. The scriptures she used were Psalm 98:4 & 1 Timothy 4:12, “Make a joyful noise unto the Lord; make a loud noise and rejoice, and sing praise.” “Let no one think you are too young to be an example in the way you talk and live, in love, in faith, in purity.” You know, the funny thing is that Tucker was not even going to be his name until right before he was born due to a silly string of circumstances. He was going to be named Joseph, after my dearest uncle J. God knew. He knew this sweet baby boy needed the name that shouted out that he was a drum beater; that he would set the cadence...and this is who Tucker is and what he does.
I have to share a couple of Tuck’s favorite quotes, both from T. Roosevelt that make me smile:
“Walk softly and carry a big stick”
“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.”
I will not take for granted the privileges God has graciously given. I will always say that we are enjoying this season of our lives...because life is always growing and changing. We want our children to go & do what God is leading them to do. This is such a sweet season and as for now...I will treasure these things in my heart...
Happy Birthday Tuck! Love you dearly😘
I am a simple and ordinary girl who loves to share meaningful stories about the extraordinary people and blessings, the sweet everyday happenings that make me smile. I hope you all have a beautiful day!